I Know Just How You Feel…
I’m Ronald, and I also felt an office impostor, too.
In many ways, the story above is my story – and it all drove me to complete burnout.
Despite my “successful” journey on paper, such as graduating from one of the top French business schools with a Master In Management degree and working in a well known IT-consulting company in Paris, I still felt I wasn’t good enough and doubted myself a lot.
For months, I experienced a constant inner battle as my inner critic fueled my self-doubt, taunting me for even having goals and dreams that seemed unrealistic.
I realized that I couldn’t go on like this and realized that the root of my problems lay in a lack of professional confidence and assertiveness.
I started to research how to improve these two traits. I read every book I could, took every course I found and eventually discovered all the tools I was lacking – and implemented them in my working life.
I won’t lie: I was deeply uncomfortable saying ‘no’ and speaking up when I knew conflict was inevitable. As the weeks turned into months, I noticed that I felt more confident and assertive and that I had better communication skills…
… At first these newly acquired skills allowed me to feel brave enough to quit the consulting industry and find a Tech company more aligned with my values, interests and personality. It was a great first step in the right direction. In this new environment, I was being treated with new respect by my colleagues and I could be more myself.
After, my self-development journey continued, I realized that it wasn’t only a problem of confidence and assertiveness what was holding me back in my career, it was a mindset issue.
Working on my mindset allowed me to finally believe that I could be in the driver’s seat of my career, rather than just a passenger.
I realized that my limiting beliefs were holding me back from truly pursuing my dream career all along.
I felt finally confident enough to truly ask myself what I wanted to do with my life, regardless of any external expectations and opinions.
I finally found my real purpose of coaching others to go through this same transformation, unlocking their core confidence, and empowering them to build an authentic and fulfilling career.
And I was able to do so, because I was aligned with my authentic, true self.